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Once We Decide To Be Happy



Sometimes we look out the window and think "the grass is greener" and we wonder what our lives would be like if we were smarter, popular, stylish, loved like that, married, had a child, had more children, less children, traveled, lived in a nicer house, had the career of our dreams, moved cities & had fancier things. I'm not sure it ends.

But maybe we realize smart people, popular people & wealthy people can just as easily be drunk, wasted, insecure and unhappy. Is it happiness we are really seeking? Why do we keep convincing ourselves it is found in whatever it is we feel we are not? No, you don't literally say that, but when we keep collecting fishes as wishes, 
we start to stink.

Life is everything we make it to be. I've heard that and I chalked it up to another life cliche that doesn't mean anything. It didn't mean anything because mentally I didn't care to make it something. But mentally, I can make greatness out of a basic game of patty cake and peekaboo. We could all do a little better at being happy because no matter what our circumstances, that is the only way we will be happy, once we decide to be.

What helps you gain that focus and stay the course is your relationship with Jesus Christ, 
His gospel and your obedience. 

Magazines have a lot of tips and numbered lists. But really, it's you taking a lemon and making lemonade. It's hard to teach someone how to do that, but a life served for others in the footsteps of our Savior allows it to come naturally. "Unless we LOSE OURSELVES in service to others, there is little purpose to our own lives." - Thomas S. Monson


I wanted to write a happy list

natural sunlight
hugs from Miss Lexi
snuggling with Mr Smith
something small but perfectly thoughtful
selfless love from people
a candid laugh
an inspiring novel or movie
the Book of Mormon
and Bible stories
pretty paintings
a clean kitchen and folded laundry
a casual photoshoot
home videos
the smell of sea salt
reaching the summit
first experiences
someone playing with your hair
the possibility of happily ever afters
when my spirit conquers my flesh
accomplishing hard things
recognizing miracles
good food
with good company
blissful silence
pianos & hymns
the idea of angels
the knowledge of God
the concept of becoming like Him
of being loved by Him
and enjoying the small moments
while we have the chance to



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