Just Don't

Don't ever ask a married couple when they plan on having kids, because the answer you want isn't really what you want to hear. We are trying.

Because you want to know what that means? Right. Way to be awkward lady - who isn't my spouse - so just keep your curiosity about our love life to yourself. It also can be very sensitive when I have been trying for years. If I want to talk about that heart ache, I will. But guess what, I'm not. Your subtle inclination to bring up the topic is not subtle at all. 

What you don't want to hear is only a responsible decision, if in fact we are not trying, it's because we are waiting until we both feel the time is right, for both of us mentally & physically. It's planned parenthood, but in no relation to the abortion promoting secret combination group which isn't secret but still evil. We understand God's will and are capable of thinking about it together - that is without your opinion.

And if you want to chastise those who put off having children or decide not to have any at all due to the possible inconvenience, guess what, still not your concern. Some people need to get the singleness out of their system. Because kids are a pretty significant inconvenience if you're not ready for it. 

Yeaaaahhhh

If they currently don't have children, encourage them to soak up all the togetherness that they can - to really enjoy getting to know each other because that dynamic changes so much with kids. Don't tell them that, it'll only annoy them, just encourage them.

If they already have children, you can ask how many kids they would like to have if you're curious. That's fairly safe. But they could probably use any adult conversation so play nice.

And we want four. But I think I might die before getting to that number.

Here are some phone pictures to follow up the weekend of the 4th: