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Together & Far Apart

Mr Smith and I are not just different, we are opposite:

1. He has to have his head covered when he sleeps; I hate having my head covered / under the blanket. I suddenly feel like I can't breathe. I think he also likes close face contact. Again, I feel like I can't breathe and it gets all musty. I officially think I'm claustrophobic. I still kiss Mr Smith, somehow…

2. Ice-cream does nothing to harm Mr Smith's body even in excess. On the other hand, it just about kills me every time, even just a little. I always end up regretting it. He also always chooses vanilla. I would buy anything but vanilla.

3. Life gets hard and Mr Smith gets quite. Life gets hard and I get loud. {Mr Smith said this doesn't make any sense. He doesn't want it to seem like he becomes passive. That's not what I meant at all. You get it don't you??}

4. I was obsessed with grades in school. Mr Smith could have cared less.

5. I love / need to eat a variety of food. Mr Smith will eat the same 5 things for the rest of his life.

6. I eat cereal every day of my life. Mr Smith never has.

7. Mr Smith thinks Chacos are sexy. I like flip-flops. Actually, most attire Mr Smith picks out (for me or Lexi), I do not like.

8. He only wants white walls. I want everything but white walls.

9. I never think we have enough photos. Mr Smith always thinks we have one too many.

10. Mr Smith is athletic. I am a far cry from any physical strength / physical coordination.

11. He has the hard pillows. I have the soft pillows.

12. He will wait and wait and wait and then go buy the most expensive one. I will wait for the sale and then the coupon and then compare and shop around and hesitate and experience buyers remorse. I will return things. Mr Smith will not.

13. Mr Smith doesn't trust anyone. I trust everyone.

14. I go to a musical performance and think that was great. Go them. Mr Smith goes to a musical performance and mentally picks it apart. He loves dashboard. I hate dashboard. I love country. He hates country.

15. My life is an open book. Mr Smith has sealed parts, invisible ink, and the only key.

16. He excels under stress. I become a mad woman under stress.

Mr Smith and I are not just similar, but we are the same:

1. Our membership in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is central to our lives.

2. We both ramble about details because we think about details.

3. If we set our minds to something, we want to do it perfectly.

4. We do not get offended easily. We think people should not be offended easily. We forgive easily. We think people should forgive more easily.

5. Neither of us are spontaneous. Surprises are reason to worry.

6. We lose energy in large groups.

7. We analyze everything.

8.  We budget. We want to budget. We want to stay in budget. We care about the dollars. We care about investing where it counts.

9. We are honest, but we are sarcastic.

10. We are obsessed with our child.

11. We like action movies & shows.

12. We are stubborn & prideful to a fault.

13. Becoming more self sufficient is always a goal. We value independence. Sometimes to a fault.

14. We want to climb mountains.

15. We value structure but need variation within that structure.

16. We hate what our current government is doing to our nation. But more than that, we hate what society is accepting.

17. We both believe a clean home is a happy home.



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